Reality TV star, Uriel Oputa has taken to Instagram to express her worries about childbearing as a result of her mother’s ill health.
In a video the former BBNaija housemate shared, she narrated how she chose to remain celibate for about four years to avoid the pains that comes with falling in love.
According to Uriel, she is considering having a child in the unconventional way for the sake of her mother who suffers dementia and might forget everything soon.
“My mum… If I leave it any longer and I don’t meet anybody anytime soon, she won’t remember my child.”
“Even if I were to introduce my child to my mum, and she’s at her later stages of her illness, no connection, she will just… nothing. She’s already on her way out. And that made me angry. It made me angry.”
“I question my morals in the sense of, I said to myself, ‘what if I wanted to have a child in order for my child and for me to give my mum the chance to have a connection with my child before she goes?’ Because, my mum is going to forget the memories that we cherished together…”
While in tears, Uriel said “And she’ll forget all of that. She’ll forget my name. So while she’s still there just a little bit, would it be such a bad idea for me to have a child? And that thought crossed my head and I was like, ‘no no no.”
“It’s not culturally… It’s not right culture-wise. People might look down at me. People might say, ‘you’re wrong’, ‘I hate you’ or ‘you’re setting a bad example’. So in what situation does a situation become morally right.”
She continued: “Put your self in this shoe, and I’m not saying that I’m going to do it, but if you was in my position, would you say having a child whatever way – artificial insemination or whatever – is wrong? Is it morally right or wrong? You guys decide and let me know. It’s a very interesting topic and I wanted to share that with you.”