A new survey of 2,000 couples suggests that sleeping apart, in separate beds, could lead to better sex. The research found that four in ten couples now sleep apart most nights, and that of these, 34% claim they have better sex and more of it, while 38% say that sleeping apart had improved their relationship overall. Seems you should try a sleep divorce if it could improve your sex life!
Concise News reports that couples listed various reasons for sleeping in separate beds, including having different sleep cycles, their partner moving around too much in bed, having different shift patterns, and snoring.
Getting a good night’s sleep can help our sex lives, increasing sexual desire and pleasure, so it makes sense that if you sleep better separately, your sex life might improve as a result.
High quality sleep lowers stress and improves mood – both of which will make you more keen to get intimate with your partner. If you struggle to sleep in the same bed as your partner, whether because of snoring or tossing and turning, it does seem like a logical solution to get your own bed. Better sleep doesn’t just mean better sex, but also better work performance. But a separate snooze can reduce opportunities for intimacy – 24% of those who slept separately said they had sex less frequently as a result. Take out the nightly snuggles in the nude and it can be easy to sort of forget about sex in favour of snoozing.
As a result, a sleep divorce can necessitate scheduling sex to make sure intimacy stays strong, or just making time for skin-to-skin contact in your waking hours to replace the late-night spooning. Bensons For Beds Sleep Expert, Stephanie Romiszewski, says: “If you need to, separate the bedrooms. “It is the social norm that we should sleep together – but we weren’t made to sleep in someone else’s sleeping pattern. “In the worst-case scenario, don’t be ashamed to sleep in a separate room if you need to – you will have a good night’s rest and potentially fewer arguments.” If you do feel like you’d miss out on intimacy by sleeping apart, however, it’s worth trying other solutions to remedy sleeping problems. If your partner’s snoring is wrecking your sleep, it’s worth trying out an anti-snoring pillow before investing in a sofabed. It’s also essential to talk to a GP to check that snoring isn’t a symptom of a more serious sleep disorder, such as sleep apnoea.
Remember that what works for one couple might be terrible for you and that how you sleep is really up to your preferences. As long as you’re sleeping well, you go ahead and keep doing what you’re doing.
Therefore, if you are curious about sleeping apart, do a trial separation and see how you feel!