By Rashidat Akashat
30-year-old transgender, Cody Harman, has revealed how he bravely picked up a life by taking the transition from being a petite woman to a sleek six-pack abs and ripped muscle bodybuilder.
Transgender Always Despised Marriage To A Man
Cody said he always felt like a boy when “he” was younger and knew that marriage to a man was a wrong footing.
Meanwhile, Harman who now seems happy, never thought it would be this great 7 years ago, when he married at 20, just to hide his identity as a lesbian or intent transgender.
He said: “It seemed like everyone was getting married and I wanted to fit in. I met up with Adam [not his real name] and we got on well.
“My upbringing was very religious so I was worried that people would realize I was gay if I didn’t have a husband.”
According to the UK Mirror, After a year of dating, they got married in 2008 with a traditional wedding.
Cody said: “I thought something must be wrong with me because I didn’t have any romantic feeling towards Adam.
“Even on our wedding day I felt uncomfortable in my wedding dress – though I pretended to be happy.
“Although I knew marriage was meant to be for life, I didn’t consider the future or the possibility of children. I was just going through the motions – I didn’t really know what love was.”
After the wedding the couples relocated to Germany, where Adams was based, but Cody was furiously “unhappy” as he tried to make things work.
Cody said: “I just wasn’t the person I was meant to be. I used to run for eight miles per day to cope.”
Cody Went To Cookery School For A Distraction
After almost three years, Cody moved back to California, whilst thinking a new career would heal his anger, went to cookery school.
He said: “I told Adam I would come back once the two-year course was over but our marriage fell apart and we divorced.”
The Californian chef also said:
“I knew I was doing the wrong thing by getting married – but I didn’t know how to tell everyone. I’m so much happier than I ever imagined I could be now that I’m living as a man.
“I can’t believe how different I feel both mentally and physically. I’ve always been into fitness and now I’ve got the body I’ve always wanted.
“When I meet people I haven’t seen in a while they struggle to believe it’s really me.
By the time he started high school he found the female changes that came with adolescence incredibly tough.
He said: “Watching my body change through puberty was hard – I hated it and just wanted to be one of the boys. I was lucky I was petite and didn’t have prominent curves.
“I also knew I was attracted to girls but because my parents were very religious they made me think it was a sin, so I dated guys instead.”
Cody Informs His Family About His Status
The Mirror reports that Cody met his construction husband through an internet dating website at age 20, and in 2012 told his family that he was a lesbian and transgender
He said : “I waited to tell them I was transgender because I thought it would be too much for them to cope with. I don’t know when I realised it myself – it’s just something I’d always known.
“My mum cried at first, but now she’s happy for me. I also met a great community of people online and I realized that I wasn’t alone.”
Cody underwent a mastectomy in 2014 and started talking male hormones prescribed by a doctor.
With his focus on his fitness while doing a lot of Crossfit training as well as running, he underwent a hysterectomy the following year and started lightweight training in 2016.
Cody said: “Working on my strength made me feel more masculine and my muscles grew quickly. I fell in love with it and in October 2016, I decided to enter my first Female to Male Transgender bodybuilding competition.
“I was training six times per week for two hours and ate a protein rich diet with lots of chicken and vegetables.
“I was incredibly nervous but all my hard work paid off and I came second.”
He will undergo the final stages of gender reassignment in June this year, when he have a phalloplasty surgery.